Talk what you want to walk.

In life, there is a lot that can get to us and affect us and stay with us. Work, home, relationships, and even random moments can all shift our days and weeks up, or down. How we frame events, interactions, and experiences can make a big difference in the flow of our days and how we feel overall. A big component of this basic sense of self is all about how we talk to ourselves in our own minds.

Where and how does this voice get formed? I think a lot of it comes from genetics, childhood and our parents, but also from our major life experiences. Now that I'm raising my own child, I want that voice that I am sharing to be a strong and steady one. Its a fine line to walk between teaching a natural awareness of the world, to being a afraid of fearful or negative about it.

So how do we most effectively shape our voice for ourselves and our children (or friends and family) for the positive? We must start with ourselves. We need to identify our "triggers" or those areas which can have a strong impact our our own souls. Framing these with a positive angle will lead to a relaxing and happier outlook. I strongly believe keeping a feeling of gratitude is a component of how we function well. To head out to work or to a task with the view, "I'm a lucky person today because..." is far more soothing than "Now I HAVE to...". It can be hard to practice this, but over time it can become more accessible and create an entirely new frame to each day and each task.

For example, tomorrow I have some trees to plant. Quite a few. I know myself, and my mind can sometimes tend toward worry. Will the seedlings be okay overnight? Are they too wet or too dry? Will I be able to get them all planted in the free time that I have? What will happen once they are planted? But if I can seek rephrasing and refocus, the work becomes a joy. Tomorrow will be a nice day to be outside in the fresh air. I get the chance to work with my hands and shovel and create a beautiful and lasting wall of trees that perhaps someone someday will look upon and thank the planter. These trees will give wildlife homes, the planet oxygen, and create lovely shade on hot days. Then I feel at peace. And thankful that I have the ability to do something like that. And excited for the journey of the trees. I know not every plant will make it, I've learned that lesson many times over in my days of gardening. But that is okay. I will adapt, create room for something else. And that will be a another nice moment.

Speak kindly to yourself. The energy around this talk will echo in many directions.


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